Mental wellbeing/your mental state.
How you feel and how you’re coping with day to day life, our mental state changes all the time, daily, monthly, yearly etc but we want to try and avoid it staying low for a long time so we need to take care of our mind, just like going to the gym etc but for our brains.
What is affecting your wellbeing?
If you feel like your health and wellbeing might be lacking, try and find out why. What affects me might not necessarily affect you but everybody does go through down days at some point and days where we struggle to cope sometimes whether its money troubles, family/relationship problems or even grief.
Find something to believe in
I remember visiting Greece and the people their just seemed so happy and so family orientated and the more I spoke to different people that were born there I started to realise how big their belief system was and how it seemed to help their wellbeing just by having something to give them hope and a reason to keep progressing forward. It made me think how cynical us brits are and how we always need proof of this and proof of that. My nan who I was incredibly close with was a huge believer in all sorts of things but especially anything spiritual. I actually bought her a gorgeous dreamcatcher which got passed down to my niece who is smitten with it and I was happy enough to let her have it after my nan passed, I actually got to have a jar of her crystals which I am so happy about.
I know not everyone is keen on it and this segment isn’t to push you into beliefs but I am definitely into ‘Healing Crystals’, They have definitely made an improvement to my mindset.
I love reading the ‘science’ behind the crystals and I have accumulated a lot of books to do with them both mine and my nan’s and what they mean, the history etc and it’s nice to have something I can use that lifts my spirits and makes me feel calm and relaxed.
I find that this makes me feel close to my nan and thats why it’s so important to me but it could be anything to believe in, little mantras or quotes to live by or a certain lifestyle change it’s just the same, it doesn’t have to be spiritual or religious if you’re not a spiritual or religious person, just find something that works for you.
Take time for yourself
Take some time to relax. Live in the present, become more aware of your feelings and your surroundings. It can help you enjoy life and accept more, make a list or a mental note of all the things you are grateful for. Find things that relax you, listen to music, meditate, have a long relaxing bath or even buy a colouring book I find it so relaxing colouring in a book or filling in a journal and reading makes me feel so calm.
Me time is so important.
I usually use my ‘me’ time by taking a long relaxing bath, having a little pamper session, doing some yoga or reading a book.
Build positive relationships
Make time for people you love!
…But don’t force it. I’ve been in a situation where I felt like I used to be super close to someone but they hadn’t noticed the drift and their partner thought it was silly to even think we were close, which in return made me feel a bit deluded and it kinda caused some grief but I’ve learnt from that and now I will only reach out to people if I feel like they want me in their lives too, don’t sweat it or feel bad about it though it is what it is and its better to accept it, if they don’t care don’t waste your time fretting.
You can reach out to people over the phone, through text or face to face. I have definitely made more of an effort to see my friends face to face, even for a quick coffee before their shifts start at work, having a girl chat helps on WhatsApp too for when we are all too busy to meet up.
I have 2 nephews and 2 nieces and I see most of them multiple times a week and I love it I always have my niece and nephew over to player switch games and my other nephew loves to come round, chill and watch some wrestling with my boyfriend. I also love having game nights or movie nights my little cousin (well…he’s 6ft+ so not so little but he’s younger haha)
I also have a huge whats app group with all my immediate close family and it’s kinda nice to check in with each other, pretty much everyday especially when most of them have their own families, jobs and various other commitments but it has definitely strengthened all of our relationships. Most of us at some point end up creating our own family but it’s still so important to keep families connected when it does expand.
All these things combined have worked wonders for my wellbeing, I used to see things like going out with the family as special occasions but now I love it being a regular thing.
Start a new hobby
Think of something you love doing, dancing, exercise, painting anything and join a class if you can, being around like minded people that share the same interests can be such a confidence boost, it can seem a bit daunting at first, I joint a yoga class and I prefer it sooooooo much than doing it by myself and I would never have thought I’d be that person who prefers a group class, I’m actually looking at joining a new class too! It helps you to bond with new people too which in return could be potential new positive relationships. Even blogging is a real help, there are so many like minded people who think the same as you and want the same things and they can be such an amazing support.
Learn a new skill
This might not be for all of you but I for one definitely get a little buzz when I learn something new. I hated school and I found it sooooo boring doing school work but I got through it, by the skin of my teeth. Now I’m older I love learning new things, and I love passing on my new found knowledge. Learning new things can give you a huge sense of achievement and can really boost your confidence. You don’t have to learn anything too far out of your comfort zone to start with, it could be a new recipe, an instrument or even a foreign language. If your short of cash to pay for classes, you can always go at your own pace and do it online or even on youtube.
Be open about your feelings
Bottling up emotions will not help, believe me I’ve been there. I rarely bottle up how I feel I just can’t do it, it has an awful impact but sometimes I struggle on how to open up in the right way, not everybody thinks the same way and I am still learning but I really do have to get my feelings off my chest sometimes, if I bottle it up the slightest thing will set me off, they could say something about the weather and I’ll divert my issue to that and it’s not okay.
If somebody has upset you and they are unapproachable like in my situation, it can be hard to talk to them direct, so talk to a trusted friend, family member anyone you feel is there for you, even a hairdresser or someone from a class just venting sometimes makes you feel better, whether it’s because of how another person has upset you or just current situations you’re going through at that time, just acknowledging your feelings by saying them out loud can really help.
Try cooking yourself an amazing meal or a meal for the family. Sticking to a healthy diet makes us feel better, you can always make your favourite take aways healthier so you feel like you’ve had a treat as well as a healthier option.
I hope these steps can really help at least one of you! Wellbeing is so important, we all go to the dentist or doctors or gym to get our teeth/bodies etc checked but we sometimes neglect out minds. Please don’t do this, If you’re feeling like your in a bit of a rut or stuck or just down and going through some things, just try one of these steps and see if it works.
If you do try these steps, do let me know in the comments on how/if it helps!
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