Be kind to yourself, then let your kindness fill the world…
Kindness. The world needs more of it.
It brings smiles to faces, creates friendships, can transform situations, it can make a day or moment memorable, it can be just what somebody needs. It’s one of the first things we are taught, its actually embedded in our genes, looking out for each other is human nature, but the world seems to let it slip at times, if your stressed out etc it’s such a mundane thing but it can go to the back of our minds but it really is so important, it’s something that should really come naturally. It doesn’t matter what experiences you’ve had or how rich or poor you might be there is no better feeling than the feeling you get when your kind to someone or if somebody is kind to you, it can really brighten your day and in return it feels so good when you feel like you’ve brightened somebody else’s day.
It’s the one trait I find really important and the trait I always try to be and one I always notice in others.
Kindness is incredibly contagious. If your the one being kind, it has a ripple effect that goes way further than the person your being kind to even just smiling at someone they instantly (most of the time) smile back. it lightens your bad mood, gives you all the heartwarming feels.
Have you ever felt like everything is getting on your last nerve? you feel like your getting to a breaking point and someone can throw a kind gesture or a little reassurance your way and it’s like a breath of fresh air and you could give that feeling to someone else.
, it’s actually good for us it makes us healthier softening our arteries, lowering blood pressure and increasing blood flow to the heart.
I started reading again (after ‘not having time’ to read for about 2 years) I then found time because let’s face it, there is always time it’s just whether we choose to spend our time on it or not. I picked up a little book on kindness and it was the story behind how this book started that attracted my attention.
Jamie thurston was looking forr second-hand furniture when she came across a desperate wanted ad placed by a woman who desperately needed rugs to cover up her broken floor so her children wouldnt cut their feet, the woman had recently fled a horrifying domestic abuse situation, to cut a long story short jamie spread the word with family and friends and gathered furniture, bedding, vouchers etc. she made such an impact on this shocked woman who couldn’t beleive a stranger would be so kind and so jamie made ’52 lives’ it started off as a facebook page with her friends and family who wanted to help others and spread kindness.
They pick someone each week, somewhere in the world who needs help, they share their story on their website and social media, request what they need and their supporters offer help.
‘It’s based on the premise that people are good and want to help one another – and that lots of good people working together can achieve amazing things.
I thought this was amazing and not something that you tend to hear much about.
I thought I’d share a couple of things from this book that you could introduce to your daily life, maybe then to your kids, friends or other family members and help make the world a little kinder.
Give Kind Comments
‘Unexpected kindness is a powerful thing, With just a few kind words, you can change someone’s entire day.’
Sometimes it seems easier to give spontaneous kindness to a stranger and we can sometimes neglect the people who really mean a lot to us, they know we love them so they won’t mind right? they probably don’t even think about it. But one simple sentence, one simple compliment can change everything, it can make somebody’s day. ‘You have the power with every comment you make, every day, to help lift those around you – and yourself in the process’
- Tell your child you appreciate how hard they try
- Tell your parents how much their support means to you
- Tell a sibling how lucky you feel to have them
- Tell your partner just how much you love them
and so on.
‘Forget about airbrushing your life and choose to be authentic instead’
I try to be as authentic as possible, Social media definitely encourages us to show ourselves in the best light, the glossier, glamorous version but that’s not always the case.
Being true to about how we feel, our thoughts and our lives are a form of kindness.
It will most likely make other people more honest too It improves the well-being of everyone around us and can be a really liberating thing, so don’t hold back or bend the truth just be honest.
‘Being dishonest is tied in with our self-esteem. Men and women actually lie the same amount, they just lie about different things, men tend to make themselves look better, whilst women will lie to make the other person feel better.’
Be kind to yourself
‘Self-love is not selfish. Silence that inner critic and feel good to be you.’
I wish I had this knowledge when I was a teen, I used to be so self-critical and it drives me mad when I see others going through the same thing, a lot of teenagers are evil, just joking but when I was a teen there were a lot of catty girls and when your so self-critical you then get super critical others, it’s a cycle that I was in myself in secondary school. When we’re kind to ourselves and we feel good, we then project that positivity on to others. When we neglect ourselves a little bit and feel a little low that negative energy influences how we act towards others. Look after yourself by doing something you love and do a lot of it!
‘Self-love is about treating ourselves, determining to change our circumstances, deciding we need to be treated with kindness and respect, or deciding to be ourselves and not the person everyone expects us to be. These ways of being kind to ourselves make us happier and in turn more kind to others.’ – David R. Hamilton Ph.D
Laugh about it!
”Taking things (even serious things) a bit less seriously can be kinder on everyone.”
We all worry about different things and we all get affected by things that can end up consuming us. Try to remember not to take things too seriously, even when it is serious it’s nice to have a few moments laughing without focusing on the doom and gloom too much. It really does help to lighten up and to take everything with a pinch of salt and making a joke of things.
‘Next time you go shopping buy one extra thing at the supermarket and donate it to your local food bank.
My last tip from the book. Share food, I don’t mean with your other half at a restaurant (although, do that too!) but donating food can be such a huge help, especially to families who rely on it. One tin or packet of food might seem insignificant to some but they mean the world to someone who needs it. Feeding a hungry person is more than kindness, it could potentially save a family from starving for the night.
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Let’s sprinkle kindness like confetti!